Showing posts with label 1975. Show all posts
Showing posts with label 1975. Show all posts

Thursday, November 8, 2018

Andiamo

Even though I grew up in a factory dominated town, I was always kind of an outdoorsy guy. Playing in the park down by the river, walking up into the “woods” which is now an industrial park, Boy Scout camping at the local camp and state parks. I decried the industrial pollution that I lived in, marching out of my high school on the first Earth Day, pulling trash out of the wetlands that went along the high school driveway All of that outdoor enthusiasm was taken to a new dimension in the IDC, when I met my friend, Rick Bombaci.

Rick had some of the same outdoor bent, but was far ahead me on of the curve of outdoor exploration. His Boy Scout experience was deeper and he had traveled further afield with his troop, up into the White Mountains of New Hampshire. Beyond his greater experience there was (and still is) a certain ethic, a certain intellect, a certain way of approaching outdoor recreation. I still teach the taut-line hitch, “two on the inside, one on the outside” and when the pack is too heavy ask myself, “what would Rick take out?”. The door had opened and I walked through.

A loose confederation of same spirited IDC people seemed to fall together. At the core were Rick, myself, Mike Babinski, and the lurpy lad referred to in a previous post, Doug Hammerstrom. Core is too strong a word I think. Anyone was welcome, lots of folks moved in and out. Some only went on one trip others went on several.

A trip was organized to Franconia Ridge in the Whites with Rick at the lead. It was as I was come to learn, a true Bombaci trip. Too many people (thirteen, I think). Each day way too long for the the fitness level of the group (raises hand sheepishly), lots of really tender feet, and no way there was going to be room at any of the tent sites on the trail for a late arriving group of college kids during a peak fall foliage weekend. The stragglers were encouraged, with the call of “just one more switchback” from higher up on the mountain. It was then, and still is, a lie. I was miserable, I was defeated, but when I popped over the ridge to see the Pemigewasset Wilderness in rust colored fall beauty, stretching out below with the Presidential Range behind, I was in love, forever.

There were bunches of backpacking trips out of the IDC. Let me tell you about some (groans and rolled eyes from my children). The Whites offered a return trip the following fall, and winter and spring break trips, including the Mt. Eisenhower Death March. There were trips to the Adirondack Mountains, featuring a clutch grab of my once and future wife sliding away down a sheet of ice covered rock to the lip of Panther Gorge and the epic winter trip named “Flaccid in Lake Placid”. IDCers were involved in the UCONN Outing Club, hiking all of the CT section of the Appalachian Trail in 24 hours. The Catskills and New Jersey Highlands offered hiking just after finals. People varied. If you had the time and the inclination, you could come along. You might come back with sore feet, poison ivy, a hangover or maybe a new life partner, but you always had a great story to tell.

And then, the Lurpy Lad from Pittsburgh came back from winter break ‘75 with a National Geographic. On the cover was a picture of a cold gray mountain, ribboned with snow, against a impossibly blue sky. The cover had a single word title, Banff. The lurpy lad uttered the most profound words he has ever spoken, “We should go there!”

And so it was I found myself in the August of ‘75 crammed into a VW microbus named, “Gus the Bus”, with Doug and Rick, and two kids from Pittsburgh whom I had never met (but who had gas money) on our way across the USA to the Canadian Rockies and Banff and Jasper National Park. If hiking in the White Mountains got me outdoor religion, The Skyline Trail was my pilgrimage to Mecca.

OK, just one story, since you asked. We had crossed over Nigel Pass down into a scrub meadowland. I woke early, needing to heed the call of nature. I unzipped the tent and made my way to take care of business. After fumbling with my shorts, I settled in, looked up and found a moose, a large cow, munching grass and staring at me about 20 yards away. I was astounded. In sotto voce, I whisper yelled, “It’s a moose!”, to my snoring comrades in the tents. “IT’S A MOOSE”, I whisper yelled again. By the time I backed up to the tents and stuck my head inside to again whisper yell, “IT’S A MOOOOOOSE!”, she was gone.

That trip has become a touchstone in my life. My IDC wife and I returned to the area in 1984 for a month of hiking, doing all of the the Skyline Trail in the company of IDCer Andy Horton. We returned in in 1995 with our children to reconnect with Rick and Doug who also brought their families for the 20th anniversary of the ‘75 trip. We went again in 1999 with our children and another family. When we retired in 2015, the first place we traveled in retirement was, Banff, Jasper, and Yoho. We were joined by one of my grown daughters and her husband for a trip up the Yoho River valley. As a group, we are thinking about going back in 2020 for the 45th anniversary, only because if we waited until 2025 for the 50th, we will all be close to 70 years old.

That trip to Banff has been a foundational piece for a life that from that point forward has always included the out of doors, environmental stewardship and friends. The friends from the early backpacking trips have become deep and abiding friends for life. I have expanded my outdoor skills beyond backpacking over the decades becoming an accomplished whitewater canoeist and kayaker. Doug dragged me into the world of cross country skiing. Babinski taught me about the discipline of riding a bicycle for hours. And Rick, well he still walks long distances. I am proud to have supported his Appalachian Trail walk now years in the past and I am in awe of his solo backpacking trips along the Continental Divide and the Northern Canadian Rockies.

Doug and Rick hang out in Wallowa County, OR, home of the Eagle Cap Wilderness. Rick lives there. Doug used to full time and now owns property there. Any of our trips west are arranged to connect through Wallowa. Doug and his wife Jodi celebrated their 30th wedding anniversary in conjunction with our 40th anniversary on a cruise along the Alaskan Coast. Rick and his family were through just a few weeks ago to attend a family wedding in CT. Babinski and I get together for “Grumpy Old Men” breakfasts a couple of times a month and ride the rail trails when we can. And that IDC bride of 40 years plus of mine? The only person who absolutely needs the outdoors to feel complete every day is Marsha Bean-Sokoloski. I am glad she has taken me along for the ride. Next spring, we are off to the Big 5 National Parks of Utah for hiking and biking.

And old IDC friend Susan B. just posted she is having a ball driving around New Zealand, camping in JUCY van. And IDC Andy has found a home on the beaches and clear waters of Belize.

Andiamo...

Steve Sokoloksi


Wednesday, October 24, 2018

Fine Friends

Part of this post was shared with the folks from the UCONN 360 Podcast and the IDC Community on Facebook. I expanded it a bit for this blogpost:


Fine Friends

I can remember it clear as day. January of 1975, second semester just starting, new people coming into IDC to fill the spaces of folks who had moved on. Fourth floor, at the end of B side hallway, one of the new girls, blue denim farmer overalls, thick blonde braid pulled back and dangling to her waist, round wire-rimmed granny glasses. You know, a real hippie type. When she turned, she had such a beautiful smile...

We celebrated our 41st wedding anniversary in September 2018 and I still get to see that beautiful smile, everyday.

We both got second degrees from UCONN. We raised two wonderful daughters. One who graduated Cum Laude through the Honors Program. She married a guy in the Honors Program who graduated Magna Cum Laude, and just finished his MBA from UCONN in Hartford. My second daughter preferred a smaller school and attended ECSU, but chose a UCONN Pharmacy grad as her husband. Both girls have graced us with grandchildren who sport a full complement of infant and toddler UCONN gear. Do we bleed National Flag Blue in my house? You better believe it.

At our wedding (filled with IDC friends) our beloved IDC friend Spring Burrington gave us the gift of learning and singing the song below that had became very special to us. She came to our 10th anniversary party with her husband and children to sing it again. She didn't make it in person to our 20th anniversary as by then she had lost her heroic battle against breast cancer. I present it here in her honor.

Steve Sokoloski (IDC 74-76)


Here are the lyrics if you want to sing along:

FINE FRIENDS(Lesley Duncan)

When the walls that divide us have crumbled
And there's no game to win,
When the tides run it's course
And we've tumbled
To the feelings within,
Then you know we'll be- very fine friends.

When there's no gain or loss to be treasured
And we stand in the sun,
Then we'll know that true love
Can't be measured,
There s no prize to be won
And then we'll be free to blend
Into very fine friends.

When the time comes to give to each other
As we surely Know it will,
You could be my teacher or my lover,
Take the cup and drink your fill
And you always will be,
Cherished by me.

Sunlight Music


Tuesday, October 23, 2018

The Death of Burns B. Crookston

April 27, 1975. It was in the lounge of the A side, late afternoon, people were gathering for dinner. She stood there in a light brown trench coat, belted at the waist, grasping a brown leather briefcase in her right hand. She was visibly trembling. She asked me to find Ray Buso who was around the corner in the kitchen. We stood with her in the lounge and Jane told us that Burns was dead, hit by a car on North Eagleville as he did his daily run around campus. We talked briefly about the best way to tell the community, and she broke down, tears falling down her cheeks in grief. She said, in characteristic Jane fashion, “Who is going to write the book?”

I remember that Ray asked for the attention of the group at dinner and broke the news. A very quiet dinner. I remember thinking that it was the first time that somebody told me about somebody that I knew, had died. The community eventually planted a tree outside the School of Education. Ted Malone was put on the case to choose the type of tree. It was a Star Magnolia which blooms early in the spring. There was, of course an argument with the UCONN administration about making a memorial on campus, but eventually a stone was added near the tree with his name, the years he was on earth, and an a quote.

In one of the renovations around the Ed building the tree and the and the stone were lost. I remember at one of the reunions a discussion about where it went and nobody knew. Jane, I think said that she had made an effort to locate the stone which she had been told was moved to storage during the renovation work. It was never found.

Steve Sokoloski